musings, life lessons & poetry from Theresa Jarosz Alberti

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Divorce Lesson 7, Round 2

Life has a way of circling around, doesn’t it?  The Indigo Girls have a line in their song Watershed that goes

“Ending up where I started again 
makes me want to stand still.”

On January 10, 2015, I was in a very similar place to where I am now. Then, it was facing divorce after being married to Bob for 25 years. Today, it is facing divorce after 31 years. Obviously, the divorce six years ago didn’t happen; we had a turn-about and changed our relationship and stayed together. After some really difficult times in the last few years, we are now getting the divorce. There will be no turn-about this time. The heartbreak and grief I was feeling 6 years ago have been back in full force this past year for me, as well as facing the changes that come with ending a marriage. It is a hard place to be.

In January 2015, Bob had just moved out, and I dealt with the heartbreak by throwing myself a party. It’s not that I was feeling jolly and wanted to celebrate. I needed my friends around me, and I needed something to look forward to. So I planned an unusual party, one where I had my guests paint on my walls and paint on ME. It really helped me so much, in so many ways. Continue reading

What Really Helped my Eating Disorder Recovery

Happy New Year! After such a rough 2020 for all of us, I am ready to soak in the New Year energy and move forward. I feel hopeful about 2021.

Diets and exercise and makeovers and  new-and-improving ourselves are so much apart of New Year’s resolutions in our culture. For some of us, these plans are entwined with painful relationships with food and our bodies that cause a lot of shame and suffering. All this may go hand-in-hand with feeling crazy around food, hating your body, disordered eating patterns, or a full-blown eating disorder.

I’ve written about this before, the fact that I have an eating disorder that began when I was 11 years old (you can read about it here and here). What I haven’t written about is my recovery from the eating disorder. Continue reading

Buying Small

This year more than ever, people are interested in supporting small businesses and individual artists/creators when shopping. So many people and small businesses are struggling in this wild ride called 2020. The mega-companies and their billionaire CEOs will be find, but maybe not the local businesses you love in your community, the restaurants and cafes, the small businesses. the creative folks selling their wares.

This year, an art group I’m in called MN Visual Journal Collective has put together a Handmade Holiday Buyer’s Guide. It features 9 artists/creators who are selling their work online. I’m grateful to be a part of it with my shop on Redbubble. There are a variety of artsy offerings including jewelry, prints, handmade crafts, cards, stickers, classes, and more. The guide is in the form of a PDF with active links. You can download it here:

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Mirror Cats!

And now for some lighter fare…

I’ve had my two silly cats for a long time now. Black cat Jinx is 14, and white-and-gray Loki is 10. It’s only been in the last few months that I’ve noticed a strange behavior they both exhibit. Maybe it started after the pandemic, when I started to give them each half a can of wet cat food* every morning, to supplement their prescription dry food. They LOVE the wet food (not a surprise to cat owners!) and eagerly and loudly meow for it every morning.

[*Note: Jinx will gobble up almost anything. Loki is the prima donna who will only eat Fancy Feast flaked– not pate or gravy. He would rather starve.]

I started noticing that the two cats would align themselves to each other as they eat– parallel or mirroring each other. It was so odd, and happens every morning. I started taking photos on different days.

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